You set the direction
Your intention matters more than my idea of what your life or relationship should look like.
About John Lack
Relationships are the thread through my work.
I support individuals and couples who want to understand recurring patterns, relate with more honesty and move through change with greater clarity and care.
Free 20-minute call · Online · No commitment
Why I do this work
I became interested in relationships through my own experience.
My work grew out of a long personal exploration of how we relate to ourselves and to other people. I became increasingly interested in what happens when we understand ourselves intellectually, yet still find familiar patterns returning in relationships, conflict or moments of change.
Over time, that question led me into systemic coaching, nonviolent communication, embodiment, trauma-informed work and NARM®.
What stayed with me across all of these approaches was simple: people often do not need to be corrected. They need enough safety, curiosity and clarity to understand what is happening and discover what feels true for them.
What working with me may feel like
Clear, spacious and curious.
I aim to offer a way of working that is warm without becoming vague, and focused without forcing a process.
We stay curious
Recurring patterns are explored as intelligent adaptations rather than problems that need to be eliminated.
We work with what is present
Rather than analysing everything from a distance, we pay attention to what is happening now and what becomes possible from there.
Experience & training
Professional grounding without the résumé wall.
I have worked as a coach and facilitator since 2020, supporting individuals, groups and organisations around relationships, communication, conflict and change.
My current work draws primarily on NARM®-informed practice, systemic coaching, embodiment and nonviolent communication.
NARM® Practitioner Training
2026–2027 · Tobias Konermann
Systemic Coaching
2020
Trauma-Informed Group Facilitation
2023 · The Field
Shadow Work Facilitation
2024 · New Eden
Nonviolent Communication
2018–2021
The School of Life Berlin
University for Peace
Charité Berlin
World Happiness Foundation
A little beyond the work
I value aliveness outside the coaching room too.
Music, movement, travel, friendship and writing are important parts of my life. They keep reminding me that personal development is not only about understanding ourselves — it is also about being able to participate more fully in life.
That perspective is part of what I bring into my work: less interest in becoming a “better version” of yourself, and more interest in what allows you to feel more connected, honest and alive.
A first conversation
See whether working together feels right.
The free 20-minute clarity call is simply a chance to meet, explore what brings you here and get a sense of whether there is enough resonance to continue.
Online · 20 minutes · No commitment